The Art of Being A Ho

It never ceases to amaze me how ppl tend to spread themselves so thin. Moral values are like farts in the wind. It's real disappointing when the dating pool is tarnished by men trying to "sow their royal oats". But I feel sorry for the good guys out their looking for good women. Why? Because there are even more females nowadays "testing the waters". And they make us ladies look bad as well as make it hard for us to get good men. I mean really, what man wants to date when Mimi on the other side of town is easy as hell. Why would a man even waste time or effort on a woman when he knows that he can get sex from someone who doesn't want nothing from him. No, I don't mean money. I mean time, honesty, trust, etc. Hell, why even take a woman out to a nice dinner and movie when you can call Mimi after ten, bring her Mickie D's and screw her and leave. I mean the art(I use the term loosely)of hoing must be easy it must not take any effort. LOOK around you ladies and gentleman. Step out the circle and be aware and beware of the hos amongst you. Oh yeah, we all know a ho. Just from sheer observation, one ho that I know(like the rhyme) goes out with at least 5 different guys. She gets what she can from them. Then she tries to play them for whatever she can get may it be money, a hairdo, or nails done. No true conversation or committment, just small things that she could do for herself. Oh yeah if two or more of your friends are hos, you may need to be mindful of the company you keep(hint hint). A ho will sleep with a man, his friends, her homegirls man, or any man that will show some small amount of attention and buy her a value meal. It doesn't take much to be a ho based on the one I know. But as a female holding it down on her own, it takes a whole hell of a lot to be a real woman with morals and values in today's society. Especially when the hos out here are making it hard on us! Remember ladies anybody can be a ho but only a few of us can be REAL WOMEN and hold it dowm. Oh yeah, and guys remember, "you can't turn a ho into a housewife!".

Is A Good Man Really Hard To Find or Is A Good Man Not What You're Looking For?

The word good can be defined as of high quality,superior, beneficial, advantageous, well-mannered, of profit, fine, competent, etc. I think most women start out looking for these traits in the men they chose. But, somewhere down the line some lose focus on what the word good means or better yet take the word good and blow it out of proportion. Is a totally flawlessly perfect man hard to find? Hell yeah! The ideal man to me would be one gainfully employed, disease free, drama free, strictly heterosexual, non-abusive, attractive, honest, caring, and has no more than 2.7 kids! I think it all depends on what a person defines as good. What's one's trash is another's treasure.
Now, on the other hand some women don't want nor desire a good man. There are those who prefer the "thug bad boy goon type". More power to those females that do. I honestly feel that some women enjoy the drama that comes with dating that "thug type" of guy. It brings out the animalistic side of them. I think there are some women who are so desparate for attention from their man that they actually enjoy a good confrontation. You know the ones, "if he hits me then he must love me" type. And let's not for get the females that will fight a man at the drop of a dime. For example, Carol takes a Louisville slugger and attacks her boyfriend, she then proceeds to chase behind him and try to attack him again. Next, her boyfriend picks up a wooden two by four and throws it at her and breaks her arm. And yep, you guessed it they're still together. She didn't mean to hit him and he didn't mean to break her arm. "It won't happen again". Yeah it will. But the consequences may be more deadly.
So no a good man isn't hard to find. But it depends on that woman's definition of a good man.

Charlotte's Movie Date

Well it's raining out and I just found out that Charlotte has a movie date tonight! She says she has been hanging out with this guy since September 08. He's supposed to also be paying her car payment out of the kindness of his heart. Well, bless his heart. We need more kindhearted, help feed the children, I'm doing this to make a change folks like him. Yeah right. I honestly think that a man can go out and screw as many women as he likes and be labeled a "playa" or a "dawg". And I also believe that men who do this and eventually change are forgiven and just patted on the shoulder. No scathing nor scarring of the rep. You know just sowing his oats. You know the saying. But when a woman does this she will be labeled a "ho" for life. Now matter how much changing she does. You know the sayings "once a 'ho' always a 'ho'" and this one "you can't turn a 'ho' into a housewife". But I think that Charlotte doesn't see this. Sometimes you can lie to yourself so bad until you actually start to believe the lie. And this is what Charlotte has done perpetuated a lie. Is this destructive behavior, self hatred, a form of compensation for a broken heart, or just stupidity. Or maybe it's a combination of things. But one thing I now for sure is this cannot be mentally healthy. How can one spread themselves so thin? How much attention can one want? And yes, I tried to confront Charlotte, but she swears she's not sleeping with these men. Wooooow! Maybe this isn't a job for a friend, but a psycoanalyst. Well it is what it is?! Well tomorrow I'll layoff on Charlotte some and will talk about, "Is A Good Man Hard To Find Or Is A Good Man Not What You're Looking For?"

Charlotte's Easter Weekend: New Meat

Well Easter has come and gone, and you guessed it. There's a new "Mr.Right". This past weekend Charlotte went on another date with a different guy. Oh yeah, forgot to tell you guys that most of the men she goes out with are married, got girlfriends, or are alledgedly legally separated. This particular guy had to take her to dinner two hours away from where she lives. She's a recent divorcee and if he's separated what is there to hide? My view is "if you gotta hide then it must be wrong". Why must so many women chase the "forbidden fruit". You know, a man in a marriage or relationship? Sometimes you have to let it go. Maybe it's an addiction or an affliction. But let's not make the men that do this innocent, they play a role as well. Maybe a huge letter C needs to appear across the foreheads of these cheaters. Who knows? Who am I to even judge? But were all entitled to opinions. We all have the right to voice them.
Oh yes, back to the matter at hand. Charlotte. She says this one wants to take her on a weekend giveaway(oops I mean getaway)and they're going to have separate rooms. She says she just want to find the right one. But how can she at the rate she's going. It's not a buffet. And besides this town is only so big, and news travels fast here. People know her business before God does! Is Charlotte a nympho or just punishing herself for a failed marriage, by trying to get back at innocent women because somebody "took" her man? Oops! Gotta go she's calling my cell! Stay tuned.....

What is the Eve Complex?

In psychology a complex is described as a group of emotinal experiences, often having an unsuspected effect. And of course Eve was the first woman created by God. Need I say more. The Eve Complex is a blog that will be dealing with a woman's perspective on life's daily apects.
Today's The Eve Complex blog topic: We might be able to do what men do when it comes to casual sex, but can we handle these situations emotionally and come out unscathed mentally.
Why do we as women always or at least sometimes think we can get away with the same crap that men do and walk away from it unscathed mentally. Huh?
CASE STUDY ONE:She's gotta get hers TOO! Enter Charlotte.
Charlotte is a 30 something female newly single and burning up the dating scene. Within the past seven months I can count at least 10 different men that she has been with sexually. According to her she's just trying to find "the right one". Ok. There's nothing wrong with that, but damn who's been to a buffet and sampled everything? This speed sex has to be emotionally draining! For most of the time that I talk to her she's sad. But on the other hand her ex is doing the same and appears to be on cloud nine. This past weekend she had a new "Mr. Right" candidate. Stay tuned for tomorrow's update.